'being happy'..as I see it..

Ah.. I'll try to explain!!
As cheesecake comments -" i think its the ppl around u that matter more"..
-- well, I totally disagree with this one!

If it were the family that mattered most.. then all those staying in huge families would have always been very very happy.
If it were a boyfriend/girlfriend/or the sort - then all married or committed people would always have been very very happy..
If it were pleasant team mates/colleagues/friends around you.. then several people across the world... would be really really happy - no matter whtever else happened in life!!

All I mean is, that there is no "ideal set of people, situations and place" which would bring happiness in your life. Never!
There is no such thing as a 'perfect boyfriend/girlfriend' .. or a 'perfect job'.. or a 'perfect country/city'.

If I think.. that let this happen.. and then I'll be happy... Let that happen.. and then I will be happy.. - -trust me, I'm never gonna make it..

If you are content -- right NOW, right HERE.. sitting on this chair.. gazing at the computer screen.. reading this blog.. you need nothing else. Whatever you are today.. whatever you are doing right now.. this moment.. if you are happy doing that.. you have made it!

Being happy is a habit. It is a verb.

And you know how that can be achieved?

-- By being 100% in the moment! And by giving your 100% to whatever you are doing in the m-o-m-e-n-t !!
When your mind is not in the past, and not in the future.. it is happy!
Have you noticed it? When you're, lets say, at a game of chess/football/any computer game - you are completely in the game.. you're focussed.. you're in the m-o-m-e-n-t! And do you remember feeling any pain at that time? Do you remember feeling malice towards that mean friend who abused you last night? Do you remember in that moment, that you hate your neighbour!? Or that how much you love your mom? Or that you have deadline to meet next week..??

When you give your mind some rest, you are happy.
When you are not thinking, you are happy!

And when are you not thinking? When you are in the present moment!

:)

If you cannot be happy in one place, you cannot be happy in any other place.
If you do not know how to row one boat, you will not be able to row any other boat.

-Sri Sri

:)

my day! :)

after so long i am at home on a sunday! totally totally living it up!

having fun.. chatting online with old friends... listening to some real nice music.. reading a book.. and sipping hot coffee while sitting next to the balcony door.. and its prettily raining outside! :)

today is my day! with myself! :)

i decided to wear my prettiest skirt and matching new ear rings.. even though when i am not going out anywhere,.. and i am just so so happy!!

i think being by yourself is the best thing one can do to relax!! yay!

oh i love my day!! :) [and my new ear rings! ---->]

Poooooooone!

yay!! i am going to pune!!
i am so excited! i'll meet up with shravan! man, its been long, I've been wanting to meet him for almost a decade now! (ok, the exaggeration is only for the sake of it. :D)

so its finally happening! i booked my tickets! and now its vroooooooooooom!

tada.. lalalllaaa... hohoho.... hmm,.. umm.. tada...lalalalllaa...

:)

I gotta tell you this!
That if you take a soft loaf of Britannia white bread and put a thick layer of Amul Cheese Spread on it ---- it tastes YUMMY!!!!! :)
slurp slurp!!

all about boyfriends, hairstyles and yeah "upgrades"!!

This morning, I was in a pretty unusually jovial mood.
Why I say 'unusually'.. coz I dont know whats gotten into me! I dont feel like talking to anyone for the past many days. I just literally, NEVER get off from my workstation.. and hang around.. (like I used to do before! .. Infact, thats ALL that I used to do before.. lol!!)

So, I hit off some simulation.. and thought I would jump around for sometme.
I started strolling.. and ended up being at this colleagues place.. who was fanatically typing something on her laptop... I stood for sometime.. pondering if I should disturb her.. when I noticed that she was using more 'backspace' than the actual keys! lol!
I realised she needed a break!! :)

me - 'hey! whats up!
she(getting startled, almost frowning) - arrey bas chal raha hai.. lots of work.. i have this project delivery next week.. and there was this last moment change in the specs.. Oh.. its all going to be so difficult.. and you know.. that xyz person had to go on leave just THIS week! he is such an irresponsible person. I have to do extra work now.. blah blah... blah blah..

[You know, this is SO typical. You just walk up to any IT professional, anywhere in the world, and he/she will have "exactly same words" - every single day of the year!! darn the IT world! Sucks the creativity out of human mind! lol..!! ]

me - hmm.. i understand.. it must be tough.. anyways, you carry on.
I began to go, when she literally jumped out of her seat, in an almost non-understandable awe!!

she - heyy wait wait sugandh! you look different today!

me(getting conscious of my torn out kurta.. and weary chappals) - Oh! is it?! not really..

she (looking at me closely.. with squinting eyes) - No, I bet something is very prominently different in you today.. oh yeah..... I see now! You washed your hair!

me(taken aback!) - What!!! I dont think I wash my hair like once a month or so.. that it would be so apparent!!! Comon.. you break my heart!! lol..:))

she(ignoring my whining) -- Oh!!! I know why! You'll be meeting Kinshuk over the weekend.. right?

me (??%W$%#$???) - eh?! yeah, I will.. But whats that gotta do with my washing the hair.. ??

she(with a sly smile, and getting a bit irritated by my discordance) - Coz "generally" , girls like to flaunt by stylish hair, when they meet their boyfriends.

me - You sure need an upgrade girl! lol..:D

she - Oh! and I see that you havent straightened your hair today. Whats up? (winking)Going to the parlour, hmm?

me - whats gotten into you?! I am not doing anything special. Its just an ordinary day. and yeah, I didnt straighten the hair, coz I had to rush to office today morning.. and thr was no time!

[At this pointa time, I really stood straight and began to wonder, if it indeed was an ordinary day. And if I 'really' had taken any special measures to make myself look a little better than ordinary.]

she - Ah, dont gimme that! Comon man.. you gotta do something of your hair.. They are rough.. and uneven.. and look very unkempt..

me - (suprised at her change of tone) - haha.. I know it looks bad. But you know what, Kinshuk never notices it. So why waste money. (I tried to shift her focus from my weary hair. sigh!)

she - Oh! I bet he does! Just doesnt say anything. Iam telling ya, before marriage, I used to deck up so much for my husband(my bf then).. and even he used to suggest to me new hairstyles.. (i cud suddenly see her getting swept by nostalgia..)

me -- hmm.. how often do you wash your hair.. ? (trying to shift the focus back to the main topic)

she (ignoring my question) - See, I am telling ya, you shud go to some nice parlour and get something done to your hair.

me - hmm.

she - I gotta go now. have a meeting. talk to you on monday.

me - hmm. cya.

Now I am back at my seat.
me (thinking to myself - It is such a good decision not to talk to people. If only, I had stuck around at my place.. I would have escaped the brickbats about my hair. Huh. I dont think splurging huge amounts of money on hair stylists really does ne good. I dont agree. Huh. My hair looks good. I would straighten them on my own and it'll all be fine. Huh.).

Suddenly a firiend pings me on gtalk.

She - hey sugz! What plans for the weekend. There is this new parlour called 'Bounce'.. wanna check it out?
Me - hey.. why? anything special?
She - yeah! My boyfriend is coming over from Calcutta. :) blah blah...blah.. blah..blah..

The story continued.....

I think "I" need an upgrade!! lol!!! :))